Getting Stuck in the Doldrums

The workings of the mind are truly fascinating! We often don't realize the thoughts embedded in our minds that we repeat to ourselves. The words spoken to us in our youth have shaped our current behaviors and reactions. These thoughts can emerge automatically, like reflexes, and before we know it, we're criticizing ourselves again. For some, these thoughts are fleeting, while for others, they seem to linger.

Why can some people easily dismiss minor mishaps, while others can't seem to let go? Some individuals struggle to escape this negative mindset. Personally, I find it hard to relate. We all face unfortunate events, make mistakes, spill or drop things, but to me, that's all they are. When I drop something, I simply pick it up, clean the mess, and move on. However, other household members might drop something in the morning and feel their day is ruined, leading to a domino effect where they've decided their day's outcome within minutes!

This mindset doesn't just affect the individual unable to let go but also significantly impacts those close to them. Why can't they break free from this? Why is moving on so challenging? Has this behavior become a habit? Can they escape the negativity and rise from the doldrums? Perhaps! This subject has been on my mind a lot. Let's see what experts suggest...

Individuals with ADHD often become their own worst critics. They fill their minds with irrational thoughts and struggle to see beyond the immediate situation. One of my goto resources is attitudemag.com. This site has been beneficial in helping me to find tools quick. This page offers insite on ways to change some of the negative self talk that rolls around in our heads such as, "I'm so stupid," "If I do it perfectly, I'll be happy," "I should have done it differently," "I'll do it later," etc. https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/how-to-stop-negative-thoughts/?src Sadly, the saying holds true: you become what you tell yourself. Many become trapped in these obsessive thoughts, unable to find a way out.

Dr. Edward Hallowell suggests that overcoming pessimism leads to success, and achieving success requires letting go of pessimism. This seems contradictory! He recommends reading Art of Living: The Classical Manual on Virtue, Happiness, and Effectiveness.

How can we truly eliminate negative thinking? By controlling your thoughts. https://drhallowell.com/2017/04/26/adhd-and-pessimism-and-negativity/  That sounds simple, but it's not at all easy. It can be an endless internal struggle to break free and change those automatic responses.

When I'm stuck, usually obsessing over uncontrollable thoughts or situations, I find it helpful to dedicate 15 minutes each morning to worrying. I began writing down my worries, and initially, it involved a lot of journaling, but eventually, I ran out of things to worry about. I also notice that when this happens, I need to refocus my energy on myself, implementing new strategies to avoid wasting energy on things that don't benefit me.

Finally, it's crucial to remember the basics that set us up for success, like proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise. If you're feeling overwhelmed and stuck, return to the basics and try to just visit the doldrums, but don't take up residence there!

What are your thoughts? Is it possible to change negative thinking? How do you escape the rut? Or do you remain stuck in the doldrums? Feel free to comment below. Share how you've overcome these intrusions or how someone you know or love has done so. If you're unsure what to do, ask a question. Perhaps someone has an answer for you.